Sorry for the lack of posts the past week and that this post is going to be all over the place. Also, this topic might draw some contradiction, but hey.. it’s how I feel, so here we go:
So many people I know (I’m talking younger than 21) have been having babies and getting married. I mean that’s fine. They’re their lives. I’m in no position to judge them. If that’s what they want, by all means go for it. But what bothers me is when people ask me if I have a boyfriend and when I say no, they ask why not. “But you’re too pretty.. “too nice… “too athletic… to be single.” I’ve heard it all. I don’t always agree with it, but I’ve heard it. Point is, is being in a relationship really all I have to strive for?
I’m not in a relationship because I’m not one of those girls who needs to be in a relationship all the time. I’m not in a relationship because I’m not looking for a relationship right now. If I happen to stumble upon a guy with complimentary goals and standards and values and ideals as me then that’s all fine and great and dandy. Maybe I’ll date him, but maybe, maybe we’ll become really good friends instead and have an awesome relationship as friends. I know the idea is completely crazy, but that’s actually how I have some of my best guy friends. And I absolutely adore every one of them, but we’re better as friends.
So okay… maybe you think I have commitment issues. But let me explain this further. There are things in my life that I still want to accomplish. Things that have to do with me and accomplishing my goals.
One of those being my self image. I know I need to accept myself before I get in a relationship. I can’t just try to find, know, and embrace myself if I’m in a relationship. That’s the big one… only because it’s the one that I truly can’t do while in a relationship. The others I think can be argued.
Next is that I want to travel. I want to go everywhere and see everything. I’ve been to almost every state in the US, I’ve lived in five different places, and I’ve also been to a handful of countries outside of the US, but when I say I want to go everywhere, I mean it. Sure it would be fun to go with a significant other. When I get married (and I do hope to eventually), I hope my husband and I will travel. But there are some places I want to just go with my friends or by myself. There are a few things/places I want to do/go on my bucket list before I settle down. I don’t want to settle down and find my life slip away.
Lastly, I want to finish school. I’m not sure if I’ve mentioned it before, but for those of you who don’t know, or are newer readers, I’m in a 6 year DPT program, studying physical therapy. At the end of the six years I will have my Doctorate of Physical Therapy (yes that’s what DPT stands for). I’m not saying I need to complete college and build my career before I have a boyfriend or anything. Just that I don’t want to settle down, get married, have a kid, etc. before I graduate.
If you’re in a loving relationship, have a kid, got married, whatever your life has in store for you, I wish you only the best of luck. This post in no way was meant to judge you or belittle you. It’s based solely off of my values and my life. It was only meant to be in respect to my life. If you can relate, I think that’s awesome, but if not, that’s okay too!
I hope that one day, I do find that guy that I want to spend the rest of my life with, but if that’s not today, it’s okay. That’s what I’m trying to say in this post. I don’t define myself by being in a relationship. If I find “the one” tomorrow, that’s great; if I find him in ten years, that’s great too… who knows, maybe I’ve already met him. But before I settle down, there are some things I still want to do, myself. And whoever he is, he’ll be okay with that. If he’s not, he’s definitely not “the one.” 😉
Ciao
xoxo
wanderlustic2 